God And Me: A relationship worth building

The strength of the bond with people increases overtime, until eventually they become trustworthy. Similarly, the time you devote to Allah only causes you to increase your trust in Him, until you become a believer. Until you become a person of faith, who relies and trusts His lord with all His affairs.

Trust is built with a relationship. It requires work and continuous effort in order for it to remain strong, otherwise, we become distant and the relationship fades away, which leaves us with no trust. It leaves us with nothing.

A relationship with no effort is not a relationship at all, rather its based on self interest. What does He/She have to offer me when I need something. Other than that, they are merely just someone out there. This relationship doesn't last, and it does not yield any fruits. It breaks to only become more distant and more difficult to repair.

In any broken relationship, one thing remains, the qualities of the relationship, which can be revived and reinforced at anytime if the relationship was sound. But often times, rebuilding a relationship requires much more effort. It requires conviction. It requires a new you. And Unlike people who may not give you a second chance, Allah will always allow you to go back to Him. But like people the relationship will require more work this time.

In many instances, fixing a broken relationship can be relatively fun and lead to an even stronger relationship than before. You must understand that you can't change anybody else, but you must change you. You should realize that you can't change the past but you can change the future. You should focus in building a two-way relationship. One that is at all times, not only good and bad times.

If the relationship with people remains distant for a while, the qualities of the parties may or may have not changed, but the circumstances may have. We no longer understand how the decision making effects the people we once used to know. They may have changed completely into a different person. Only time and effort allow us to understand and become close again if the qualities of the people are still morally sound.

Unlike people who change with time, Allah never changes in any of His attributes. He is the compassionate, the source of peace, the protector and guardian, the fashioner, the all hearing and seeing, the generous, the sublime most High, the wise, the witness and truth, the praiseworthy, the originator, the eternal and unique, the source of all goodness, the guide, the Often-forgiving and most merciful. He is much more than I can write in my limited words. There is no pen that can describe His majesty. But one thing for certain, we change and become neglectful and our relationship weakens, while He remains Allah the most High, and we remain and become just average souls. We loose the only relationship that is everlasting and beneficial.

Allah never abandons us even when the relationship fades away. We abandon Him and become distant with His plan. We do not understand how His decision making works, and as a result we suffer hardships, only to go back when we need Him. Then our prayers seem to go unanswered. However, if you had a good relationship with Allah, you would know why He says NO, and you would be content with His will, but you do not have the relationship and understanding to see that He says NO for good reasons. You have become a person of "let me go back to Him because I need something." And this doesn't work with people or Allah.

We as humans change because time and circumstances change us. Sometimes for good, and sometimes for bad. However Allah never changes, because He was, He is, and He will be always the same. Our knowledge and understanding of Him gradually fades away, until we become aware of Allah, but distant from any of His teachings and commands. A relationship that is based on self interest. A relationship which is no effort. A relationship that is not a relationship.

So if you want blessings, guidance, forgiveness, and mercy showered upon you continuously, then build a relationship with Allah. Make it a habit to praise Allah daily and beseech His help. Do that in good and bad times until your end. You will be blessed with Allah's sustenance, and you will be in tune with His plan. You will attain peace and understanding in all your affairs. You will understand How much Allah loves you. And you will be blessed with paradise insha Allah.

You will see Allah's hand in everything. You will see how He fashions something from merely an average, to something extraordinary. You will see an extraordinary you. Therefore, work in your relationship with Allah. [F.D]